Many times I fall into the trap of comparisons. I look at my life as a child and compare that to what my children have now - they don't match up. I compare my life to my friends and neighbors - they don't match up. I compare my job to my mentors or friends - they don't match up. I compare, and compare, and compare, but am found lacking.
I think a great movie is "A Knight's Tale". It is about a peasant who takes up the life of a knight after he has died. He is telling lies about his heritage and lineage, so that he can live out his dream of a knight. He is found out and the villain tells him, "You have been weighed. You have been measured. And you have been found lacking." I feel this way many times when it comes to my relationship with God. I feel that I have been found lacking.
Check out this passage from Galatians 5.23-26:
Legalism is helpless in bringing this about (the life of the Spirit, the fruit of the Spirit); it only gets in the way. Among those who belong to Christ, everything connected with getting our own way and mindlessly responding to what everyone else calls necessities is killed of for good -- crucified.
Since this is the kind of life we have chosen, the life of the Spirit, let us make sure that we do not just hold it as an idea in our heads or a sentiment in our hearts, but work out its implications in every details of our lives. That means we will not compare ourselves with each other as if one of us were better and another worse. We have far more interesting things to do with our lives. Each of us is an original.The idea of freedom, which comes from salvation as a free gift, is something hard to grasp. It is something that we don't just need to hold onto as a lofty goal. It is something that should permeate every aspect of our lives. It is something that should seep out every pore of our being. Yes, freedom in Christ is a great concept and a wonderful, warm-and-fuzzy sentiment, but it needs to be so much more.
We have been set free from the law of sin and death. We have been created for a purpose, an original, unique purpose. We are masterpieces of God's craftsmanship. But have we allowed this to come out in EVERY detail of our lives. As one translation puts it: "work out your salvation with fear and trembling."
We need to allow this to become more than just a concept, or goal. It must become a way of life. When we begin to truly understand how free we are in Christ, then we will stop living with the guilt and shame. We will be less stressed and more happy. This doesn't mean that we don't make lists or plans, but it means that we live according to God's plan and principles.
I don't know if any of this makes sense or answers any questions. I think that many of these just raise more questions. So "let us make sure that we do not just hold it as an idea in our heads or a sentiment in our hearts, but work out its implications in every details of our lives."